Comments on: Swee’s memory of our mother http://victorchin.com/2009/12/09/swees-memory-of-our-mother/ Life outside mainstream interests and concerns. Sun, 25 Dec 2011 18:13:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Farida http://victorchin.com/2009/12/09/swees-memory-of-our-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-775 Farida Wed, 27 Jan 2010 05:00:46 +0000 http://victorchin.com/2009/12/09/swees-memory-of-our-mother/#comment-775 Dear Victor, I am so touched by what your sister wrote. My Mum passed away in February last year and as this February approaches, I am beginning to relive with even more intensity the hospital visits, the painful last days, the dashed hopes and the things I wished I could have done but didn't, like holding Mum in my arms as her life ebbed away. I didn't because I was rooted to the spot at the foot of Mum's bed, my heart crumbling as the alarm went on and on, as the beeps became fainter and when the horrifying flat line appeared. One never gets over the loss of a precious one, especially a mother. The memories come, and sometimes they make me laugh, but oftentimes they make me ache to have Mum by my side again. Dear Victor,

I am so touched by what your sister wrote. My Mum passed away in February last year and as this February approaches, I am beginning to relive with even more intensity the hospital visits, the painful last days, the dashed hopes and the things I wished I could have done but didn’t, like holding Mum in my arms as her life ebbed away. I didn’t because I was rooted to the spot at the foot of Mum’s bed, my heart crumbling as the alarm went on and on, as the beeps became fainter and when the horrifying flat line appeared.

One never gets over the loss of a precious one, especially a mother. The memories come, and sometimes they make me laugh, but oftentimes they make me ache to have Mum by my side again.

]]> By: Ben & Anna http://victorchin.com/2009/12/09/swees-memory-of-our-mother/comment-page-1/#comment-749 Ben & Anna Mon, 14 Dec 2009 20:14:31 +0000 http://victorchin.com/2009/12/09/swees-memory-of-our-mother/#comment-749 For those of you who's been informed, I have recently been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. The very day I received the news, my heart sunk. However, your mum spoke to me. She just said in hakka, "chit ju, ngi oi siau seem.tong ngiaou piang seong dong lunn dooi foo.ng mau sit tye tiam.joong liong sit tum yim tum.tieu daw dit" which translated means "nephew, be careful as diabetes can be very difficult to handle, eat + drink bland and have plenty of rest. Sometimes, I engage in long conversations with her especially on her understanding of the dharma. She is remarkably well versed in the prajnaparamita. She constantly encourage the 2 of us to maintain the buddhist way of life, something we hope we are doing. So,as far as we concerned, she is forever present. For those of you who’s been informed, I have recently been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. The very day I received the news, my heart sunk. However, your mum spoke to me. She just said in hakka, “chit ju, ngi oi siau seem.tong ngiaou piang seong dong lunn dooi foo.ng mau sit tye tiam.joong liong sit tum yim tum.tieu daw dit” which translated means “nephew, be careful as diabetes can be very difficult to handle, eat + drink bland and have plenty of rest.
Sometimes, I engage in long conversations with her especially on her understanding of the dharma. She is remarkably well versed in the prajnaparamita. She constantly encourage the 2 of us to maintain the buddhist way of life, something we hope we are doing.
So,as far as we concerned, she is forever present.

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